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A look at trans racial adoption and its challenges

She and her husband, who are white, have two adopted daughters, one A look at trans racial adoption and its challenges and one African- American. Robyn Wells believed she went into the adoption of her Ethiopian son with eyes wide open.

She and her husband Timothy, a police officer and Army veteran, who served two tours in Iraq and one in Afghanistan, brought Ben home when he was four years old. The Wells are white and live in Champaign, Illinois, a multi-cultural Big Ten university town and have gone to some effort to create a diverse environment for their son and three biological daughters.

At no point in the process of considering transracial adoption did I think I would have to teach my son how to stay alive. First, she says of her awakening, there was the shooting of Trayvon Martin in At the time Ben was a 6-year-old boy who had just learned to ride his bike after only two trips up and down the driveway with his father running alongside him.

Many families struggle with the question Wells is facing: Transracial adoption has become a common enough sight in celebrity tabloids that since my husband and I adopted our two daughters a 1-year old Ethiopian in and a newborn African-American last Octoberwe have endured many unfunny jokes about being on trend. The main takeaways were either aesthetic in nature, about the practicalities of black hair and skin care, or hopelessly broad.

So what can parents do? Today you can get the box and have the video and step-by-step instructions in different languages. In the spirit of searching for better instructions, I interviewed adoptees ranging in age from their 20s to their 50s. From my many conversations, it became clear that we adoptive parents too often choose to delude ourselves with four comforting but dangerous myths.

Love was not enough for them. Abigail Scott, 21, is a Chinese adoptee who grew up with her single mother in what she calls the bubble of Berkeley, California. She was active in the organization Families of Children from China. She and her daughter returned to China for a two-week trip when Scott was She encouraged her daughter to apply for Chinese mentorship programs at UCal, though Scott resisted because growing up she found herself increasingly disinterested in exploring her Chinese culture.

Scott says she never told herself that she wanted to be white, but always felt atypically Chinese.

  1. Transracial adoption has become a common enough sight in celebrity tabloids that since my husband and I adopted our two daughters a 1-year old Ethiopian in 2009 and a newborn African-American last October , we have endured many unfunny jokes about being on trend.
  2. To me, and this certainly isn't a race blind comment, but it did, to me, the race and ethnicity of the child did not matter to me.
  3. This was the beginning of trying to figure white people out.
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She was a muscular lacrosse player who loved being tan. She told her mother never to buy her anything Hello Kitty. When she and her mother went to large family functions, Scott remembers noticing that everyone else in the room was white except her.

She accepts for now that she is confusingly adrift between her American and Chinese identities. So if you prepare them for that you are helping them.

Part of your role as a parent is teaching your child how to safely cross the street. He was four years old, an African-American boy scuffling with a white boy on a Denver playground. But I just knew that my skin was different and I had no control over that.

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You need to leave! Meanwhile Landau spent much of his adolescence gelling his hair straight and wearing long sleeves and pants in the summer to cover up his dark skin. When he left home for college, his dad, who comes from a long line of Denver policemen, never gave him the talk—a tradition in many African-American homes—about how to have self preserving interactions with police and other authority figures.

In Landau, then 19, was driving in Denver with a white friend in the passenger seat. Cops pulled him over and the officer accused Landau of making an illegal left turn.

Transracial Adoption Challenged

Landau was hauled out of his car and patted down. We should be able to talk as people. And then immediately I had my world changed.

  1. The Wells are white and live in Champaign, Illinois, a multi-cultural Big Ten university town and have gone to some effort to create a diverse environment for their son and three biological daughters. Try to explain without vilifying others.
  2. Which means when he meets with adoptive parents he shoots down what he sees as a transparent resistance to diversity. I was just devastated.
  3. Two separate things, I'll try to make them quick to give your other guest time.
  4. So you teach younger children the best you can [about racism], in simple language. The Wells are white and live in Champaign, Illinois, a multi-cultural Big Ten university town and have gone to some effort to create a diverse environment for their son and three biological daughters.
  5. We live in a rural community.

Two of the police officers who attacked him were later fired for unrelated uses of excessive force. Today Landau is the Racial Justice Organizer at the Colorado Progressive Coalition and he and his mother are working on a book about transracial adoption and the patterns and practices of police abuse in Denver.

A look at trans racial adoption and its challenges

I was just devastated. So I would strongly advise that parents do not have this sheltered mindset and be open to the narrative of folks who actually live this experience day to day.

You can make BlackLivesMatter your Facebook profile picture. But for many white adoptive parents, the act of raising kids in a diverse environment is too hard, or too inconvenient, or too easy to trade off for better schools or safer neighborhoods. This despite a report from the Evan B. We live in a rural community. The difference is that when a black person is called a racially charged name, they go home and get the love and support from parents who look like them.

I went home and got that same love from people who looked just like my tormentors. This was the beginning of trying to figure white people out. Who are the good ones? Who are the bad ones? How do I know? His parents listened to Lawrence Welk during dinner. They vacationed in Montana. When he left for college, he stuck a wallet-sized photo of his Norwegian-American parents behind his identification so cops would see the picture when he was asked to pull out his license on bogus traffic stops.

Which means when he meets with adoptive parents he shoots down what he sees as a transparent resistance to diversity. Unfortunately, for this identity to stick, there needs to be someone in need of rescuing. Neighbors in her all white conservative Minnesota town loved to remind a look at trans racial adoption and its challenges how very lucky she and her sister were that their German Lutheran parents rescued them from Korea. Any questions or fantasies about her birth mother seemed like a betrayal of their gift of family.

Parents think that if we love our child ferociously enough and do all the right things, we can rescue our beautiful children from a reality we find incomprehensible. Allow your child her story, whatever it may be. But he would not have become the leader that he is destined to be either.

So you teach younger children the best you can [about racism], in simple language. Lessons can become more elaborate as kids mature. Try to explain without vilifying others. Introduce people your children can identify with and want to emulate. Make sure they know their rights and that they understand the recommended way to handle themselves with the police. We want our kids to live to become peaceful agents of change.